On Sadie’s first day my first big fear is she may cry for me not to leave her-or even just say, “Mommy will you please stay”…what will I say…Am I even allowed to stay for a while until she is comfortable? Is my want and need to stay beneficial to her?
I know I am not alone in the kindergarten anxiety and would like to share some tips I found helpful for me.
- Start a solid routine. Get a good home routine going for back to school a week in advance. Dinner, bath, reading, and bedtime kisses. Don’t forget about the morning routine as well wake up, brush teeth, get dressed, breakfast, backpack, snack, lunch/lunch money, and get to school.
- Make sure your child self-reliant. Are they ready to handle things like the restroom on their own, getting a tissue when needed, buttoning up pants, and tying shoes. Keep in mind the things your child may encounter during lunch for example, can they open their milk or put a straw in their juice box, or open up a plastic bag or sandwich container.
- Visit the school. Meet the teacher (establish a good relationship with them give them your email. Let them know if your willing to volunteer, donate needed supplies, or help clean.), secretary, principal, nurse, and lunch service workers. Be sure to take note of all these people’s names (get a business card if available) and talk with your child when they will encounter these people or may need their help.
- Go through the classroom’s routine with your child. What they do when they first arrive at school, while in the classroom, what to do if they need to use the restroom, what to do during lunch, and finally what happens when school is over? Will they wait for you at a certain spot, look for grandma, or get on a bus?
- Talk about feelings. Allow them to talk about their fears, (you can share some of your well wishes) and reassure them it is okay to be fearful, but also reassure them you know they will be okay as you were on your first day and like an older siblings, cousin, or other family member.
- Read about what Kindergarten is like. It is helpful to read stories about starting kindergarten as it will help ease the fear of the unknown. A few great choices are Miss Bindergarten Gets Ready for Kindergarten, written by Joseph Slate and illustrated by Ashley Wolff; Kindergarten Rocks! by Katie Davis;Look out Kindergarten, Here I Come! by Nancy Carlson; and I Am Too Absolutely Small for School (Charlie and Lola), by Lauren Child.
Our meet the teacher day is tomorrow! 🙂
If you have any tips please share in the comments below!